Passings
SZYMBORSKA
by Jack Grapes
I came home
Wednesday night from class
and Lori was ensconced
like a caterpillar in a cocoon
on the bed, watching a movie on tv
about crazy people who fall in love
and break china.
“Szymborska died,” I said.
She reached for the remote
and shut the tv off.
The room expanded
into that quiet bubble we experience
when we shut off the tv.
She looked at me and said nothing.
What was there to say?
A friend dies, a poet dies, poetry lives on:
There’s nothing you can say.
It’s like turning off the tv,
and their passing
fills the space of our lives
with all that silence.
A balloon of being and nothingness,
a reduction of existence
into a series of appearances,
overcoming those dualisms
that have embarrassed philosophy
and replacing them with the monism
of the phenomenon.
I put the clipboard
I still had in my hand
on the dresser
and began to undress.
Then I got in the bed
and lay beside her.
We still hadn’t spoken.
Szymborska was gone.
We just lay there for a bit,
in the silence,
not sure who would break it,
not sure whose turn it was
to turn the moment
back into words.
You need a poet
at a time like this,
and the poet was gone.
There was a small crack in the ceiling.
And a tiny cobweb in the corner.
Later, Lori’d probably get on a chair
and with a tissue
wipe it away.
That was her job,
getting those little tiny spider webs
gone before they engulfed the house,
our lives, the planet. Don’t
worry, dear reader, she’s on the job.
You will be safe.
“What’s my job?” asks Lori
when she’s nagging me.
And I repeat the mantra:
“To take care of me.”
But for now, with Szymborksa’s passing
still blooming into silence,
the cobweb
would have to wait,
the crack
would just have to bide its time.
Such a long silence.
Then I thought, fuck it.
I reached for the remote
and clicked the tv back on.
There went a teacup.
Crash.
There went another.
Crash.
It was good to get back
to a semblance of the world,
all that love and passion,
all those broken teacups.
Wisława Szymborska, who died February 1, 2012, was a Polish poet who won the Nobel Prize for Literature in 1996.
Jack Grapes is an award-winning poet, playwright, actor, teacher, and the editor and publisher of ONTHEBUS, one of the top literary journals in the country.
We are proud to be premiering this poem today.
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Comments (176)
jean swales
February 9th, 2012 at 4:20 PM
How deeply moving. and beautiful. I felt my own soul was saddened, and then recovered with a crash.
Thank you Jack.
Julie D.
February 9th, 2012 at 4:34 PM
I'm just coming into this, just starting to feel the weight of her passing, having had to shove other poets and my own 'stuff' out of the way first. Eight days later it is hitting me. Odd, since I'd never heard of her before your class, Jack, yet here she is, suddenly, dug into me like a chigger.
"A friend dies, a poet dies, poetry lives on:
There’s nothing you can say."
I think this says it all.
Thanks for this, love.
xo
Julie D.
Lucinda Jenney
February 9th, 2012 at 4:37 PM
Wonderful Jack. That’s the moment you know
Everything is different now. There is the spider
In the corner and the wife who loves you.
The loss of a great and dear poet..well put.
I am right beside you..you put me there.
Megan
February 9th, 2012 at 4:58 PM
Wonderful poem, Jack.
maureen grady
February 9th, 2012 at 5:15 PM
This is masterful and true in the deepest sense. It.also captures an aspect of the essential nature of both great poets-Grapes and Szymborska.
I would love to have been in her presence once.
Maureen Grady
julie
February 9th, 2012 at 5:20 PM
The unsettling truth of change of passing of new beginnings
Beautiful! Touching! True!
Thank you for sharing Jack
Erica J.
February 9th, 2012 at 5:38 PM
You've inspired me with your beautiful poem. I'm grateful you've made me aware of her work. Now I feel inspired by her work, too.
maybellcottage
February 9th, 2012 at 5:59 PM
the silence, the cobweb, the spider, symbol of infinite creativity,
and of course, all = SZYMBORSKA.
Thank you Jack.
Athena
February 9th, 2012 at 6:04 PM
Your poem was such a comfort, to be with others in grief, and to excuse myself from remaining there, as your poem so beautifully ended. Thank you for speaking so authentically to loss.
Jan
February 9th, 2012 at 6:21 PM
thank you, jack….this poem moves me all over the place, makes me gasp for air, cry then cracks me up…thank you for the flight and the joyful landing. szymborska would love this like i do.
Lisa Segal
February 9th, 2012 at 6:45 PM
the poet writes a poem about
another poet’s death and so how
i learn of that poet’s death
is from the poet who turned
me onto this poet, and to poetry,
period, in the first place. that,
i’m pretty sure, is poetry.
Justin Valdivia
February 9th, 2012 at 6:53 PM
The passing of a great voice, the birth of a great poem. Ashes to pages, digital dust. Everything in between, that’s just extra, to quote an old man called Grandpa. I don’t know whether to cry or text somebody.
leslie tuchman
February 9th, 2012 at 7:26 PM
Thanks, Jack, for this beautiful piece. I outlined the"voices" you used….hope I am right. Will ask you in class.
XOXO Leslie Tuchman
lisafayesch
February 9th, 2012 at 7:59 PM
this is beautiful and I will be re-reading it often. thank you for writing and sharing. And as Lucinda, who commented earlier, said: ….you put me there.
Susan S.
February 9th, 2012 at 8:47 PM
Circle of life captured in a simple, poignant poem. Masterful, Jack. Thank you.
Sarah Mac Donald
February 9th, 2012 at 8:58 PM
Great work Jack – That's where life is somewhere between spider webs, teacups and the remote. Thanks, Jack. Love, Sarah Mac
Lyman Ward
February 9th, 2012 at 9:23 PM
Your observation is your talent. The words flow and I am allowed into your heart.
ariana navarre
February 9th, 2012 at 9:30 PM
"the balloon of being and nothingness" … the silence and all that space. you have captured the yearning left when someone dear has passed. so very beautiful. thank you jack.
Patricia Scruggs
February 9th, 2012 at 11:16 PM
Wonderful poem Jack. It's amazing how the death of someone we've never met, only know through books, can touch us. You caught it all.
Tracy
February 10th, 2012 at 12:16 AM
Beautiful, Jack.
wenitrains
February 10th, 2012 at 3:07 AM
Thank you for this poem, Jack Grapes. No, there isn't much one can say, but it does say something that Adam Leipzig put Szymborska right up top. Szymborska was the first piece I saw when I went to Cultural Weekly today. Thank you Adam Leipzig for making Cultural Weekly a place where poets get the respect they deserve.
CMontelle
February 10th, 2012 at 3:07 AM
This is a lovely poem!
Jeremy Stuart
February 10th, 2012 at 3:12 AM
Damn, it's good to hear your voice again Jack. Wonderful poem.
Maurice Kaehler
February 10th, 2012 at 3:29 AM
Beautiful poem, Jack!
Roni Keller
February 10th, 2012 at 3:32 AM
More brilliance from Jack Grapes! This poem moved my soul. Thank you, Cultural Weekly.
jessica carlson
February 10th, 2012 at 3:51 AM
amazing and beautiful poem. thank you.
Scarlett Riley
February 10th, 2012 at 3:59 AM
It's a fantastic piece Jack. What an honor to honor her this way. And Adam, very nice choice, sir! Very nice.
Adesh Kaur
February 10th, 2012 at 4:01 AM
I am heart-ache-moved by this poem. It's the infinite and the cleaning up cobwebs. Yes! Breaking china. Ouch.
My best friend called and read your poem to me on the phone. Right in my ear, you were. Szymborska,too.
Jack, you are my favorite poet on this (or any) planet. "… poetry lives on… "
susan wyler
February 10th, 2012 at 4:02 AM
I love this poem. I first read it when I was still stunned by her passing, and I don't know why I was stunned. I know people die. I know that even poets die. All I wanted to do for a couple of days was read her poetry, and then articles about her — once they started coming. I'm so curious about the many years she had of silence. Two years here, nine years there, and all the things we don't know about what she did with her body and her mind in all the in between spaces. I read she left 400 poems behind. Four hundred poems. And I am just so curious about that special soul in all the in between times. Jack writes about all the in between times.
I so appreciate this Cultural Weekly. I so appreciate Jack Grapes and his poetry.
Deborah Gaal
February 10th, 2012 at 4:13 AM
Gorgeous poem. I appreciate the deep insight into both this wondrous poet and your private world.. Thank you, Jack. You're always generous.
Joan D
February 10th, 2012 at 4:18 AM
You always have something to teach me. Thank you again. Joan D.
TatesMom
February 10th, 2012 at 4:30 AM
The room expanded
into that quiet bubble we experience
when we shut off the tv.
Szymborska was gone.
We just lay there for a bit,
in the silence,
You need a poet
at a time like this,
and the poet was gone.
Such a long silence.
How beautiful are you, Jack Grapes? In my naiveté, I had "heard" of Szymborska, maybe read one of her poems, but never known her as you just shared. Thank you for the beautiful introduction…even at her passing.
Wendy
February 10th, 2012 at 4:35 AM
Great poem, Jack, great, not "good." As always, you touch me with your words, from a deep heart soul place.
Mary Rakow
February 10th, 2012 at 4:51 AM
Thank you Jack. This is why we write. The death of a great poet, the clipboard, the marriage, the cobwebs, the order somehow found or made in all those collisions. Thank you for finding the notes. Thank you for singing at this moment.
tim b
February 10th, 2012 at 4:54 AM
Simple , unshowy and direct. really touching.
Dana Clavin
February 10th, 2012 at 5:01 AM
As we go about our daily life we are helped with poets like Jack Grapes to appreciate the mystery between the slices of rye. Thank you Jack for bringing us to the heartbreak and then without judgement , letting us return to the place where there are old movies , soap operas and spiders in the corner and it doesn't delete the awe.
Kathrin Seitz
February 10th, 2012 at 5:11 AM
Jack, sitting here in NYC on my friend Helen's bed imagining the moment with Lori the bed spider web emptiness and the death of a poet. Thank you for transporting me to LA ; for your deep voice and memorable image moment.
Kathrin
Veryle Rupp
February 10th, 2012 at 5:34 AM
a moment of poetry passes.
Forever in thought Jack Grapes
DerynWarren
February 10th, 2012 at 5:59 AM
Imagine if she had read it.
jacquelyn
February 10th, 2012 at 6:00 AM
Your words resonate in my bones and dance through me and all the broken pieces of china. What a beautiful tribute to one of my favorite poets that I discovered from you.
Linda Pence
February 10th, 2012 at 6:02 AM
"Someone, broom in hand,
still recalls the way it was.
Someone else listens"
Jack Grapes, thank you for recalling, I am still listening.
Linda Pence
Cathy Weinstein
February 10th, 2012 at 6:27 AM
"You need a poet at a time like this". Thank God for Jack Grapes. One of the tenderest honorings of a death.
Steve P
February 10th, 2012 at 6:37 AM
Too much poetry today is like my grandmother's living room. Formal and musty, and nobody ever wants to hang out there. This poem was warm, rich, full of life and deeply mindful of the darkness outside the door. It's a poem I wanted to linger in. And it made me want to read Szymborska, who, somewhere, was smiling as she read it.
ruth Schneider
February 10th, 2012 at 6:47 AM
the deep loss of Ms. Szymborska to all lovers of her work was expressed in as sensitive a manner as all of us will come to experience as the loss becomes real and is felt by the absence of her words.thank you Jack Grapes for allowing me to stay in touch with how her words have touched me as have yours.
Ruth Schneider.
Eileen Hale
February 10th, 2012 at 7:23 AM
When people in my life die, I don't know how to be. My two brothers; my first husband; my most important aunt; Picasso; Peter Sellers. Your poem makes that not-knowing okay, puts me at (a sort of) ease with the ordinariness, and that is comforting to me.
Thank you, Jack.
Toni_ann
February 10th, 2012 at 8:01 AM
Jack you are living proof that cream rises to the top….You bring your own special magic to honor Szymborska…Hold up the light my sweet friend
harlan wintrobe
February 10th, 2012 at 10:55 AM
A sonorous tribute to a great poet from a great poet. Let the spider be a while longer while I read and hear.
beverly jackson
February 10th, 2012 at 11:24 AM
A beautiful and touching tribute, fit for 2012 sensibilities. Thanks, Jack
Mary Petrie Lowen
February 10th, 2012 at 12:12 PM
This is a great poem.
A precious gift.
To Szymborska.
To us.
Thank you for writing it, Jack Grapes.
Thank you for premiering it, Cultural Weekly.
jim sloyan
February 10th, 2012 at 2:23 PM
when the light goes out…another poet turns it back on.
thanks jack,
Sharon Mosier
February 10th, 2012 at 2:57 PM
Beautiful and touching poem. Thank you Jack and thank you Cultural Weekly for posting it.
Toni Miller
February 10th, 2012 at 4:16 PM
So many voices Jack. I loved the twists and turns that you so easily navigated as your brilliant mind just let go and created. So much to learn in between the lines of your beautiful tribute to the poet you knew so well.
Kurt Kamm
February 10th, 2012 at 4:19 PM
Very touching, and written with the unique voice of another master Jack Grapes. RIP
Nancy Peardon
February 10th, 2012 at 4:23 PM
Jack Grapes draws us inside his powerful emotional connection to the poet Szymborska through his brilliant use of image/moment. Love this piece! Thanks Adam for showcasing Jack's poem in Cultural Weekly.
margie goodspeed
February 10th, 2012 at 5:00 PM
well said, jim
Alima Sherman
February 10th, 2012 at 5:25 PM
lovely – thanks Jack and thanks to the Cultural Weekly for sharing this poem with your readers.
Ashley B
February 10th, 2012 at 5:58 PM
Jack, you convey a truth about the void left behind by death
that goes to the raw core of grief.
I've searched for the meaning of what I have felt when I have lost someone
and you explained it to me.
I guess that's what great poets do.
Thank you.
Fran Fisher
February 10th, 2012 at 6:01 PM
Beautifully said with great heart. Thank you, Jack
Fran
Ruth Bavetta
February 10th, 2012 at 7:45 PM
Thank you for giving me this poem, Jack. And thank you for giving me my own poetry.
vicki batkin
February 10th, 2012 at 7:47 PM
This is such a beautiful piece, Jack — crafted with such skill and heart. What a gift to Szymborska, and now, for all of us. Thank you Adam, for showcasing this piece.
Christiana
February 10th, 2012 at 8:29 PM
"You need a poet at at time like this, and the poet was gone…"
Really touching
She was one of the first poets I fell in love with when I was 17….Thank you CW for posting at a time when we are all mourning her loss, and treasuring the work she left behind for us that will carry her spirit for future generations of young hungry hearts.
lkthayer
February 10th, 2012 at 8:52 PM
I love this poem Jack, as I squeezed it at The Juice Bar, my poetry site…so endearing & original,
a great tribute to a master poet! Thank you for your thoughts & heartfelt words Jack! – Lisa
Marley
February 10th, 2012 at 10:39 PM
Thank you for this, Jack. Really.
suzanne
February 10th, 2012 at 11:41 PM
I keep re-reading this poem because it is so beautiful, so true, so filled with heart. There is something about the big theme of death vs. the small details of ordinary life (the clipboard, the remote, the broken teacups
) that captures me every time. Thank you Jack Grapes!
Alexis Rhone Fancher
February 10th, 2012 at 11:47 PM
Oh, Cultural Weekly, you're killing me! First Mia Sara, then Richard Jones, & now, the master, Jack Grapes, with this powerful tribute to a fellow master poet. Fabulous! I never miss an issue of Cultural Weekly.
Angela Cohan
February 11th, 2012 at 12:06 AM
So wonderful and moving…
Kathy Goldman
February 11th, 2012 at 12:21 AM
A fine examination of loss. Solid, in the world and not of it.
Andrea Pietschmann
February 11th, 2012 at 2:42 AM
so lovely. thanks.
Caroline Horton
February 11th, 2012 at 2:57 AM
Thank you Jack for the simple and beautiful expression of the immensity and non-plussed-ness of death. I always love reading your work, and thank you to CW for publishing, I agree with Scarlet.
Mary Rose Betten
February 11th, 2012 at 3:55 AM
Thank you Jack for writing this for us and thank you Cultural Weekly for sending it out when we needed comfort. How it helps the heart to share sorrow and to share it through the words of a beloved teacher and our home town Cultural Weekly. .
It sure helped me Jack got throwing china in there. A fitting epitaph for our poet's hand-painted bone- china soul. Words, all we have is words…and each other, write on dear Jack Grapes,
Mary Rose Betten
Vanessa
February 11th, 2012 at 4:23 AM
Thank you Jack, for a moment of grief and life. so real.
Adela Ballester
February 11th, 2012 at 8:27 AM
My favorite line: "… and their passing fills the space in our lives with all that silence." Such a real and honest moment of reflection. Thank you; this is a poem I'll think about for a long time.
wandererb
February 11th, 2012 at 9:06 AM
LOVE the contrast of silence and smashing china – such is life and death. Well done! Bravo! – Barbara
Tracy London
February 11th, 2012 at 6:22 PM
Thanks for the poem, Jack. And thank you Cultural Weekly for publishing it. What I love about Jack's work is the interplay between the mundane and the profound. Very moving.
Regina Leeds
February 11th, 2012 at 7:05 PM
A fitting tribute to a beautiful artist!
Sheila Power
February 11th, 2012 at 8:41 PM
What a beauty Jack! It’s such a treat to hear your voice. Thank you- Sheila
Kathy Neches
February 11th, 2012 at 8:47 PM
This poem is at once breathtaking, in it's ability to transmit such loss, such admiration and love in a moment of real life image. Thank you Jack, again and again for your gift.
Elena Irving
February 11th, 2012 at 10:59 PM
Dear Jack,
Your piece on Syzmborska has so many human elements; love, appreciation, death and mourning.
It is a stunning work and I'll read it over many times.
Many thanks,
Elena Irving
karen
February 12th, 2012 at 12:47 AM
Dear Jack,
There is an indescribable feeling when you lose someone that you love and admire.
Your poem sweetly expresses your sadness for her loss and the way she touched your soul.
Sending deepest condolences.
Warmest wishes,
Karen Ahmanson
Angela
February 12th, 2012 at 3:09 AM
Jack is a great teacher and his heart is the size of Texas!!!! Print everything he sends you! Hugs!
More poetry and more love for all of us! Angela Robinson Witherspoon
Candace Culp
February 12th, 2012 at 4:12 AM
"….yet men die miserably every day for lack of what is found there", well, Jack, we won't die miserably as long as poets like you exist and publications like The Cultural Weekly are here to help light the way.
With much gratitude,
Candace
Dominique
February 12th, 2012 at 5:14 AM
Thank you for sharing your poem,
Steve Kowit
February 12th, 2012 at 5:56 AM
Nice that the Cultural Weekly had the good taste to publish Grapes' touching tribute to Szymborska. She was as good a poet as we've had: accessible, human, wonderfully droll & incisive & surprising in her perceptions. & she translates well into English thanks to Clare Cavanaugh & Stanaslaw Baranczac.The Billy Collins introduction to her "Monologue of a Dog" collection is well worth reading. Again, how nice of Jack Grapes to have written that sweet, touching poem upon Szymborska's death…& for CW to have published it!
janna
February 12th, 2012 at 6:11 AM
I loved how you took us from the crazy people crashing teacups into the silent bubble of time stopping after someone dies and then back to the broken teacups. Thank you Jack Grapes for writing this and thank you Cultural Weekly for publishing it.
Sophie
February 12th, 2012 at 1:40 PM
To give me a moment to slow down.
Pause
In the midst of noise and speed
I slowed down
I am grateful
Thank you
Roz Levine
February 12th, 2012 at 2:04 PM
"The poet was gone.' Yes she was gone but you live on as a beautiful poet capturing the pain of loss, reminding us that poetry lives on, enriches our lives in the peek of every spider web, in our fingers on the TV remote on a bed at night, in all the moments that make a life. Thank you Jack, thank you Cultural Weekly.
Love LIve Poetry!!!!!!!
kristen
February 12th, 2012 at 3:09 PM
Thank you, Jack. The duality has never been more clear for me today. Thank you.
Chanel Brenner
February 12th, 2012 at 4:24 PM
Beautiful poem and tribute. Thank you for introducing me to Szymborska.
yasnyi
February 12th, 2012 at 4:38 PM
"you need a poet at a time like this" and anytime you need someone to suck the meaning out of the silence…who you guna call? Grapes! nanosecond after nanosecond we need to decide whether to chase the spider or watch some TV…who better to help me know than Grapes.
Bill
February 12th, 2012 at 4:40 PM
"We just lay there … / not sure whose turn it was / to turn the moment / back into words." And what is poetry, if not that all too fragile uncertainty that Jack is portraying? To be able to stay attuned to that uncertainty for over 40 years is the mark of genuinely accomplished poet. This poem is a duet of farewell with another master of the liminal. All of us poets should be so lucky as to be sent off with an elegy replete with such a full measure of candor.
Alice Hofheimer
February 12th, 2012 at 5:04 PM
Love the poem Jack, and this introduction to Cultural Weekly. Thanks!
Jon epstein
February 12th, 2012 at 5:09 PM
This piece reads like a poem. Front, middle and back… and I want more
William Nix
February 12th, 2012 at 5:15 PM
What a thoughtful, playful, wonderful tribute to the passing of a bard.
Bravo, Jack Grapes!
Jan McGuire
February 12th, 2012 at 5:16 PM
i have to add that i love where this poem takes me…from the painfully vacuous stillness of loss thru to the laughter and joy of life going on…it says so very much in such a concise powerful way leaving me with a sense that i figured it all out on my own…and, most importantly, that i'm not alone…it's so beautifully inclusive and intimate…this is what great poetry does for the human spirit and why i love it. i salute you jack grapes. thank you.
Philip
February 12th, 2012 at 5:53 PM
Great poem from one of LAs best.
Frank James
February 12th, 2012 at 6:26 PM
Jack,
Amazing…I felt like I was looking in at your world in a snow globe as you perfectly described the world going on inside.
You are truly the Master…
Frank James / Palm Springs,CA
Paula Gocker
February 12th, 2012 at 6:41 PM
And so we face the silence and go on carrying with us Symborska and Jack and all the other poets, some of whom go by names other than "poet" but who nevertheless are poets or poems. Each. Each. Each. And we are glad. Thanks, Jack, for recalling us to the place of silence and beginning, again. Poetry's work.
Paula
German Zelaya
February 12th, 2012 at 6:51 PM
I stood there, looking down for an isntant. I saw them, they seemed as delicate as flowers in the fields.
I stood there.
Under the rain walking I saw them. They trembled at the sound of thunders
the sun burns them, the sun gives them life.
At war I saw them. They looked up for help. I was tempted to reach my hand but i waited for a while. Their existance is so short.
I blinked once they had reached the clouds.
They call themselves humans….. they are just an extension of Me.
Lilli
February 12th, 2012 at 6:57 PM
Really gets you in touch with the knowledge that artists die and art lives on. I am thinking about what i will leave behind when i am no longer in a body. You work is wonderful.
Marsha Scarbrough
February 12th, 2012 at 7:02 PM
Thank you for sharing Jack Grapes poem with us. I'm savoring the bittersweet flavor of poignance.
Fredde Duke
February 12th, 2012 at 7:43 PM
fantastic poem, I love the relationship between the writer of the poem and his loving wife (and the moment the t.v. is turned back on, genius)
Bryan Alberts
February 12th, 2012 at 8:30 PM
lovely
MMW
February 12th, 2012 at 9:01 PM
Exquisite tribute!
Barbara Rothstein
February 12th, 2012 at 10:43 PM
These days I feel bombarded by news, by trivia, by mediocrity. But to read Jack Grapes' poem on the passing of Szymborska restores my faith in the human heart. Thank you Jack Grapes and thank you Cultural Weekly.
Tim giblin
February 12th, 2012 at 11:29 PM
The voices, the voices, the voices they are amazing
Thanks jack
carrie white
February 13th, 2012 at 12:58 AM
Unlimited love and appreciated for YOU BOTH~!! You say it for us all~~~~~Thank You Jack GrapesMaster~!!
Ann
February 13th, 2012 at 1:25 AM
Thank you — for the beautiful poem, so true to life, and for introducing Szymborska to those of us who didn't know her.
steve
February 13th, 2012 at 1:27 AM
"We just lay there for a bit,
in the silence,
not sure who would break it,
not sure whose turn it was
to turn the moment
back into words"
You always give us these pictures of familiar moments that grab at me. Not because i knew the poet (I didn't) but because now I know that moment – and I know you have them too. Beautiful poem, Jack, and now I get to discover Szymborska too.
Robert Curtis
February 13th, 2012 at 2:51 AM
Jack practices what he preaches and can do what he teaches! He's a man who lives in the best part of his brain and the best part of his heart all day long. I'm glad I met him. A fine poem!
B.L.
February 13th, 2012 at 3:39 AM
The poet (the living one, that is) could use an editor to cut out the "justs" Beyond that small annoyance, Grapes shifts voice beautifully, yanking us awake and drop-kicking our attention into unexpected zones. His reassurance ["Don't worry, dear reader... You will be safe"] is reinforced nicely, returning us "to a semblance of the world," one inhabited by the imperfection we so need: "all that love and passion, all those broken teacups." We are engaged; we are reassured.
Karla Lee Kuester
February 13th, 2012 at 4:23 AM
Thank you, Jack, for reminding us of the quiet bubble where we get to think, to feel, to write.
After so much loss, I know that our writing can create that hallowed space to honor those on both sides of the veil.
I'll re-read it when I need to remember…KK
Judy Salamacha
February 13th, 2012 at 4:41 AM
Jack Grapes, thank you for converting your thoughts – a poetic tribute worthy to be adopted by all of us for a memorable poet icon. And thank you Cultural Weekly for recognizing Jack's poetic gestured should be shared with the cultural cyber-world. Bravo! Judy Salamacha, Director, Central Coast Writers' Conference at Cuesta College, San Luis Obispo, CA
Silver
February 13th, 2012 at 5:03 AM
Utterly beautiful. Thank you… She'll be missed.
W. McRae
February 13th, 2012 at 5:20 AM
Simply beautiful, Jack. Always a pleasure to read your work.
Kristan Sargeant
February 13th, 2012 at 5:27 AM
Thank you for the elegant contours and contrasts of this poem. Life and death brought into deep focus. So heartfelt and moving. Thank you!
Jules
February 13th, 2012 at 6:11 AM
A wonderful example of all you are. Brilliant and moving. Thank you Jack.
Jack Grapes
February 13th, 2012 at 6:24 AM
you're right B.L. My wife usually cuts those "justs" out of my work. There were two of them, I think, and both could go. Nice catch, appreciate the reminder.
Michael
February 13th, 2012 at 7:01 AM
What a true gift
For a fallen comrade
Words will forever
Face the world
With the force of a thunder storm
Poetry passion peaks
Through your method
hearts cry speak.
What an honor you did Jack.
mdh
Lee Perry
February 13th, 2012 at 3:57 PM
Such a beautiful homage to Symborska which manages to touch the bits of our lives surrounded by 'the
thens, the nows and the in-betweens.' With gratitude to Jack Grapes and to Cultural Weekly.
charles swenson
February 13th, 2012 at 6:01 PM
I feel like breaking a cup. Futile, but satisfying.
linda g.
February 13th, 2012 at 6:03 PM
this is why we love our Poets…
thank you for waking us up to the moment… bringing us into your mind, emotions, physical reality…which of course we all share.
eileen w
February 13th, 2012 at 6:45 PM
Jack, you're brilliant. Thank you for this. It's beautiful and perfect and true.
Holly Hein
February 13th, 2012 at 6:54 PM
Moments between breathing in and breathing out are filled with the crashing teacups beauty grief and Jacks’ deep understanding of the poet and poetry. A soul breathes internally. Thank you Jack
Amadea
February 13th, 2012 at 6:58 PM
You take my breathe away with your relentlessly giving heart, reminding us all of who we really are underneath our tired smiles. Thank you. Again.
Erik Rey
February 13th, 2012 at 7:00 PM
I am touched by this poem and the the truth in the silent revealing moments. Thank you Jack Grapes.
Niki
February 13th, 2012 at 7:11 PM
Such a beautiful poem! Mr. Grapes really captures it here…broken teacups.
MLR
February 13th, 2012 at 7:43 PM
Beautiful – Thank you Jack
Ruth
February 13th, 2012 at 8:29 PM
I'd never heard of Szymborska until I read this poem.
The lines,
"A balloon of being and nothingness,
a reduction of existence
into a series of appearances,
overcoming those dualisms
that have embarrassed philosophy
and replacing them with the monism
of the phenomenon"
particularly struck me. One poet writes of another poet's death and the expression reminds me of my own experience of deep grief. How can that be?
"But my grief is special," I want to cry out with italics and maybe a foot stomp. How can this poet know about that balloon of being and nothingness? I thought that was mine, alone.
So, I googled Szymborska herself and found "Cat in an Empty Apartment" which ends with—–no, I don't want to quote it. Look it up if you don't know it, the whole thing is so beautiful. As often as I read poems like these, my life is made more rich, the pains are borne with a reminder that I'm not as alone as I thought.
Thank you CW for bringing poetry to the front page.
Margie Goodspeed
February 13th, 2012 at 9:20 PM
I've been wanting to comment for days. What to say that hasn't been said? Jack Grapes is the master knocking at our door unadorned. Come on in and let's keep the China safe until it must be shattered. Later, some shards escape the broom, nest in the space between the TV and the bed, waiting.
Leda R
February 13th, 2012 at 10:18 PM
Simple words ain't so simple. Thanks Jack, for putting down on paper what I can only feel.
savannah
February 14th, 2012 at 12:54 AM
This is so lovely and tender.
theresegilardi
February 14th, 2012 at 2:04 AM
one unique poet commenting on the life of another, bringing the loss of a human voice down to a level we all relate to. sometimes it's necessary to be reminded of the world of broken china. thank you jack.
heathencomehome
February 14th, 2012 at 4:36 AM
what tragic irony that to have read such a romantic and bittersweet poem the day before Valentine's Day.
Arva Rose
February 14th, 2012 at 5:34 AM
Jack,
Your poetic prowess excites me …and makes me feel secure. You know what you're doing and you do it beautifully. You make me want to do it beautifully too.
Arva
How nice that you can do it AND you teach it.
Steve Brown
February 14th, 2012 at 4:08 PM
Lovely.
Fiona goodwin
February 14th, 2012 at 4:17 PM
Thank you Jack, for insisting on our need for a voice to say what we universally feel…and for doing it so beautifully. I look forward to more please. Fiona Goodwin
Polly Grose
February 14th, 2012 at 4:39 PM
Poetry is the juice of our soul. Thank you, Jack,
Kelly Flook
February 14th, 2012 at 5:22 PM
Jack, I enjoyed this poem especially the stanza that starts "It's like turning off the TV,…" And thank you for writng this to introduce many, poetry void like myself, to Szmborksa.
Satsimran
February 14th, 2012 at 6:55 PM
Thank you Jack for introducing me to Szymborska and for bringing poets and poetry indelibly into my life. Your poem does honor to the artists and the art.
Nick Milo
February 14th, 2012 at 7:04 PM
Thanks for writing this Jack, drawing my attention to Szymborska's passing, and to this blog. I never liked the tv.
Simone
February 14th, 2012 at 7:40 PM
this poem reached into that empty place in my chest and filled it up. thank you for your words.
Annie Abrams
February 14th, 2012 at 7:51 PM
Jack, thank you for writing this beautiful poem, and thank you to Cultural Weekly for publishing it on their website. This poem makes the universe feel tiny and expansive at the same time. The little crack in the ceiling is both a hairline fracture and a deep abyss. Jack, your poem will inspire many to read Szymborska's work and hear her voice, including me!
Rebecca D
February 14th, 2012 at 8:32 PM
Facing the news of the death of someone we’ve loved even if we haven’t known them in the flesh, someone who lit a torch in our particular darkness, a soul-brother or sister who waved to us from afar, someone we were in a significant relationship with without even knowing it, finding out that this person has died is a grief that overthrows, confuses, humbles and pierces… this poem took me to the landscape I’ve lived in but hadn’t named. Thank you, Cultural Weekly, for printing this gorgeous, timeless piece. And thank you, Jack Grapes, for the flooding generosity of spirit that permeates your brilliance. Happy Valentines Day to you and everyone we love, here on earth, and elsewhere.
Jeorgia Moore
February 14th, 2012 at 10:43 PM
At the end of "Elegaic Calculation," Symborska provides in other words, different words, her reaction to those who "crossed that threshold." The poem ends with "They've given themselves up to endless (if not otherwise) silence. They're only concerned with that (if only that) which their absence demands." I thought of this elegy when reading Grapes' poem, which was, in itself, a paen to those who help interpret the human condition.
Good job, Jack. Good job, Cultural Weekly.
Cynthia Wands
February 14th, 2012 at 10:56 PM
Wonderful to see this poetry in this venue. This is one of those poems that make time stand still. Thank you Jack. You are such a powerful poet. Thank you Cultural Weekly for sharing this with us.
Madeline Sharples
February 14th, 2012 at 11:26 PM
Jack, I love this poem. It just has a way of grabbing your attention and never letting go. I posted a link to it from my Facebook page. Congratulations.
kathleen Wilhoite
February 14th, 2012 at 11:43 PM
What an outstanding poem. Jack, you are fantastic and Wendy, for the past few weeks I've been reading your selections and it makes me so happy. I love great poetry and I'm crazy for quality online lit mags. You are an amazing editor.
Georgianne Cowan
February 15th, 2012 at 1:38 AM
Jack. You are a master poet, teacher. Thank you for honoring this woman(whom I regrettably am unfamiliar with, but not for long b/c of you)! Since I don't know her work I felt your poem as a testament to relationship and the subtlety off the spaces in between loving. And, of course, it all just keeps pushing on, life, that is. Happy Valentines Day to the whole wide world…Glad you're in it!
Glad this forum exists!
Charles Bischoff
February 15th, 2012 at 1:39 AM
Jack, I love your words, your poetry, thank you. Thank you for highlighting Szymborska of whom I'm ignorant. The only thing better in my mind after reading your poem, a couple of times, is to hear you read it. Love.
aprilhalprinwayland
February 15th, 2012 at 1:46 AM
The details–the specific details. Thank you for bringing us into your home so we can hear your hearts breaking.
Ruth
February 15th, 2012 at 2:08 AM
What perfect silence.
Naomi Lieberman
February 15th, 2012 at 2:15 AM
I loved this poem when I read it. I emailed you, Jack, I called Lori, and then I googled Szymborska, and read "Possiblities". Loved that, too, so I sent it to some friends.
Now, I'm reading your poem again, reading "Possibilities" again, going to look up, "Cat in an empty apartment", while the beauties parade around hoping for best in show on the "Westminster Kennel Club Dog Show".
Bella Mahaya Carter
February 15th, 2012 at 2:23 AM
Love the lines, “not sure whose turn it was to turn the moment back into words. You need a poet at a time like this." Fortunately we have Jack Grapes at a time like this–a poet's poet, a visionary publisher and editor, and a gifted teacher. He's a master, a bard, and a gentleman. I'd love to read more of his work here at Cultural Weekly.
vicki whicker
February 15th, 2012 at 2:44 AM
Jack Grapes captures this moment so well, this moment that is so familiar, I can almost feel the bed, I am snuggled between Jack and Lori, I see what he sees, I feel what they feel.
Thank-you Jack, my teacher, my mentor….with Szymborska's passing we lost one of the greats and you show us how to carry on with dignity and poetry.
Merry
February 15th, 2012 at 4:08 AM
What a beautiful gift Jack Grapes has given the world with his tribute to Szymborska. I did not know her before reading his poem; now, I do. Thank you for this gift of her voice and even more, for the gift of Jack Grapes'.
Kathleen Blurock
February 15th, 2012 at 5:21 AM
Thank you Jack, and thank you Cultural Weekly for leading with this simple, rich human poem. And when I say simple I mean a thing that is difficult to achieve, simplicity. Kathleen Matson Blurock
Sita
February 15th, 2012 at 5:44 AM
Thank You CW, for placing this acknowledgment of Szymborska where such news belongs – up front.
So urgent that we remember the power of poetry when there are no other words of conveyance.
Thank you Jack Grapes, for this remarkable tribute – to bring her alive in this poem, in this way: "Szymborska died"/ "She reached for the remote and shut the tv off./ "What was there to say?"/ "You need a poet/ at a time like this,/and the poet was gone"/ "all that silence."/ "all that love and passion/ all those broken teacups."
It took me to Szymborska's view of the world in 'Reality Demands,' as if you had placed Sher into her own poem: "So much is always going on/ that it must be going on all over"/ "Where Hiroshima was/ it is again"/ "This terrifying world is not devoid of charms/ of the mornings that make/ waking up worthwhile."
I believe she would be deeply touched and pleased.
iabg
February 15th, 2012 at 6:04 AM
When I heard Szymborska died, I opened up one of her books at random to "Travel Elegy", which begins:
Everything's mine but just on loan,
nothing for the memory to hold,
though mine as long as I look.
So grateful to have Wislawa and Jack together, here, at Cultural Weekly, showing me how to see the cobwebs and still be willing to get back to a semblance of the world, again and again and again….
David Ramser
February 15th, 2012 at 1:16 PM
Thanks for the beautiful moment Jack. It's such a to see the world through your words. As always!
Francesca Keck
February 15th, 2012 at 5:08 PM
Dear Jack, Thank you. You introduced Szumborska to me and now you have honored and indelibly memorialized her poetry within your own words and images. Your poem keeps her alive. Your words are flowers on her garve, and add fragrance to her lingering spirit. I am also grateful, comforted and more secure to know both you and Lori protect my back and keep the spiders at bay. Francesca Keck
Suzanne Lukather
February 15th, 2012 at 5:47 PM
You make the point so eloquently in the simplest way – life goes on – and in her passing so many more of us learn about and participate in her art. You've made sure of that. Thank you, Jack.
Mary Holmes
February 15th, 2012 at 6:07 PM
This poem and the sense of loss it so deftly explores, is at turns expansive as the Universe and as finely focused as a small crack in the ceiling, or a tiny cobweb in the corner – the juxtaposition 'overcoming those dualisms that have embarrassed philosophy and replacing them with the monism of the phenomenon.' The infinite revealed through the infinitesimal and brought home. In that, the reader, writer, and subject are brought together. What a piece of work, this thing called poetry can be. So glad to find it here on the cutting edge of culture and as far back as the beginning of time. Thank you.
P.S. Also wanted to acknowledge the excellent work of your poetry editor, Wendy Rainey. Keep her and keep this level of literature as your standard, and your publication will doubtless set the bar aspired to by the rest.
ashley gardner
February 15th, 2012 at 6:07 PM
Thanks for writing this very soulful poem Jack, I'm sure Ms Symborska would be pleased. And thanks to Lori for keeping the world safe from spiders.
Lisa Becker
February 15th, 2012 at 6:08 PM
Jack Grapes is the kind of poet that puts you in the room; on the bed in the middle of their silence looking at a tiny spider and thinking of Szymborksa. So simple and stunning at the same time. Kudos to Publisher's Weekly for recognizing a poet gem like Jack Grapes. May we please have more of him?
Odette
February 15th, 2012 at 7:32 PM
You bring us out of isolation and invite us into your bedroom, where we mourn the death of a master as you carry her torch with new words. There is a difference between genius and solid writing. Your work is filled with moments of genius and sheer simplicity. You bring us back to the here and now, celebrating our frailty, our needs, and the love that makes it all bearable. Thank you for all you give to the world, and to your students.
Evelyn Stettin
February 15th, 2012 at 7:34 PM
thank you, Jack, for broken teacups and cobwebs that need wiping by the faithful
Angela Iannone
February 15th, 2012 at 9:37 PM
You did a beautiful job honoring her.The world will feel the loss of another great talent. Thank you Jack
Kedren
February 15th, 2012 at 11:06 PM
Really beautiful
Many Thanks
Jennifer
February 16th, 2012 at 4:35 AM
Jack, what a wonderful poem. Congratulations.
Claire P.
February 16th, 2012 at 5:36 AM
So beautiful Jack! Szymborska is gone, but thank God we still have you and the breaking teacups! Claire P.
Sandra Blazynski
February 16th, 2012 at 5:56 AM
"You need a poet at a time like this and the poet was gone." The poet was not gone, for Jack Grapes was right there on the job, offering testimony to the majesty of poetry and the gift of the poet herself. I was not familiar with Symborska, but I am now. The small town of Allen, Texas, library had two of her books. I checked out "View with a Grain of Sand." The other was already gone. Now, each night before sleeping, I read one of Szymborska's poems – in part to familiarize myself with her work. In part to honor the poet, Jack Grapes, who loved her so.
BARA BYRNES
February 16th, 2012 at 10:21 AM
THANKS JACK FOR AWAKENING ME A NEWFOUND POET. I WAS TILL NOW UNFAMILIAR WITH SZYMBORSKA; AND YOU MADE ME FEEL HER TO THE TIP OF MY TOOTH; BUT THEN THAT IS YOUR GIFT…THANK YOU FOR SHARING IT WITH US ALL. LOVE, LIGHT, LAUGHTER BARA
Linda Pyle
February 17th, 2012 at 12:10 AM
Thank you Jack for the beautiful poem. How it captures life passing through us.
Janice Gerard
February 17th, 2012 at 7:24 PM
Dear Jack: A deep and touching tribute to your friend Szymborska and to poetry. What better way to make her present and alive then to say, "It was good to get back to a semblance of the world." Now it is your inheritance to be the voice of poetry. Janice
Danielle
February 18th, 2012 at 1:57 AM
How very real. Thank you Jack for describing the reality of how we deal with death.
Patricia Kirk
February 19th, 2012 at 4:03 AM
My daughter sent me your poem on Szymborska, Jack. She has taken classes with you in the past, always impressed with the way you help aspiring writers find their natural voice. I sent your poem to six of my friends, readers all, but not necessarily of poetry; however, the response was overwhelming To a person they wrote back about the experience of reading your poem and about their desire to know more of Szymborska, a poet they didn't know, or know well. But mostly, inspired by your poem and her story, to read more poetry–both yours and hers. I think that you have touched a lot of lives with your poem, as Szymborska touched yours.
Pat Kirk
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